Chastity (A Collection)

In this podcast episode, HouseSlaveFag repackaged blog posts from episodes 4 and 19 about chastity. He explores how chastity has helped him combat procrastination and focus better on work, take care of his exhibitionist streak and wish to demonstrate his submission to others, as well as produce this sweet mindfuck that puts him in a much more desperate and submissive headspace. His Master just took everything that was optional to him and turned it compulsory.

Aside from the reprised blog posts, HouseSlaveFag compensates listeners with a long introduction, offering some more general advice about getting into chastity.

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I'm happy to offer my little bit to inform people about chastity. I may as well start in this introduction, because the posts you'll hear later are all about my experience with it. They’re not a guide on how to get into chastity.

I've been playing with chastity cages for a few years but on a more occasional basis. Then, I think on the first time that I visited my Master for a really long stay, he used chastity to get me desperate or maybe he didn’t even know the effect it would have on me but just wanted more control. After 10 days of not cumming, he got me to accept his collar and become his owned slave. Later on, I started using chastity as a tool to focus more on work, instead of wasting time on jerking off. As a digital nomad, I work from my hotel or Airbnb. So without clear limits, it's easy to waste a lot of time on jerking off. The latest development was that my Master started imposing chastity on all workdays for the same reason, but also whenever I hook up with others or go cruising, as well as in advance of my visits.

Just like now. I'm on a regular cruise now, while he’s on an Atlantis cruise, and I’m making my way to see him in just a little over a week, so I'm caged now almost all the time, except at night, at the gym and in the hot tub. He might let me cum at some point, during the week that I visit him, but I guess he now enjoys that I come to him when I'm deeper in the sub headspace and am more desperate for him. That's what it's mostly about for me.

Sort of. I don’t really need the cage for the mindfuck, just to avoid cumming for three days, but the cage is a visual or external representation of that denial. It reminds me of my cum denial at all times. Then, for me as an exhibitionist, there's also the aspect of using the cage to make my submission visible to others. Though I don't do that in front of straight people. And displaying it in any cruising bar, not only kinky places, is a recent development, imposed by my Master.

But let me circle back to talk a little bit more generally about chastity, as I promised you a primer, in case this can be helpful to any of you.

There are many important questions to ask and I'm not going to address all of them now. You can google them or maybe I can elaborate more on another occasion or you can connect with me on twitter (I'm HSFaggot). You can also find a lot of guys to ask on the telegram channel of CagedJockLegion.

I'll just recommend, first of all, that you do what feels right for you. Whether that's trying on a cage for yourself or experimenting with key-holding for someone else, responsibly. Some people will be very dogmatic about how you're supposed to use chastity, particularly how much time and how small a cage. At the risk of sounding blasphemous and possibly annoying some of you hardcore locked boys and key-holders - I'd say again, you do what's right for you. Key-holders and locked boys can agree on any set of rules, but that's between them. There are no universal rules about chastity.

Here are some things that defy some rules that were made to be broken. You don't have to lock 24/7. I don't lock at night and I even unlock when I go to the bathroom, just to make a little less of a mess. A guy can self-lock without having a key-holder, or lock remotely based on an agreement with his Master (as I do now). It's also possible to use some toys to enforce compliance remotely, if the honor code is not enough. For example, you can use seals with serial numbers for the cage, which are communicated to the Master, so a seal can't be broken without his knowledge. Or it's also possible to lock the key in a box that is controlled remotely by the Master or with a timer.

Another thing that might seem counter-intuitive is that Doms can choose to lock themselves too, and definitely switches. Like caged jock from twitter, who likes to fuck guys while he is locked, by attaching a dildo on top of it. Or TBumBerlin on twitter, who fed me piss from his locked cage, as you can see in a video on my feed, which has already gained over 60,000 views.

My favorite cage is the one from Kink3D, and I've found that the curved ring model works best to reduce pain. Holy Trainer was my first cage, but it didn't work well, because it covers the entire dick, and when moisture or piss get locked inside, which makes the skin so much more sensitive and prone to bruising from chafing. Kink3D wasn't even on the market until a few years ago, so I used a different cage back then, made of steel. It was heavier but at least it allowed for air circulation, so my dick could stay dry. Finding the right cage for me has required significant investment, and even now I'm not sure I shouldn't go back to a smaller ring size, because my balls sometimes escape it during hard sex.

In any event, be sure the cage is comfortable for you and doesn't cause pain or god forbid, injury. Your health should come first. And by the way, that also includes mental health. If you feel that the cage is affecting your mood in unhealthy ways, beyond a fun mindfuck, give yourself a break. A chastity cage can be a lot of fun, but it also introduces more stress into your life. I'm usually fine with that, but sometimes I'm not, and that's ok. Just like they say at the gym - listen to your body. If something doesn't feel right, just stop. Maybe you can get back to it another time.

The posts featured in this podcast episode were taken from episode 4 (My Submission into Chastity) and episode 19 (A Month in Chastity).