How to Handle Financial Domination (Part 3)
How to Spiral All the Way (If You Want)
Whenever exploring the topic of financial domination (or findom in short) I recommend starting from my foundational three posts. You can listen to them on the podcast for free (e.g. on Apple or Spotify), or paid subscribers can also read them here.
This post is a part of a series:
“How to Handle Financial Domination”
Part 1: How I Slipped
Part 2: Strategies for Protecting Yourself
Part 3: How to Spiral All the Way (If You Want)
Part 4: Putting It into Practice
This post is addressed to subs who want to spiral into financial domination, and I'm sure many FinDoms will also see this as a good resource to share with their finsubs. FinDoms may also find it interesting to better understand their subs and how to trigger them more effectively into sending.
So here goes.
In this longer than usual post I'll share some steps you can take to make yourself more ready and open to send to a FinDom, or to spiral further, if that's what you seek. From delaying orgasms, to using or avoiding chastity, to thinking about what triggers you, and much more. FinDom can be fun and this post can give you some ideas of how you could spiral further. Just be responsible about it and don't go there if you can't afford it. Otherwise, if you can, read on and enjoy the ride!
No cumming
You need the eagerness and frustration that develop from not cumming for a few days. For me the threshold is three days. That's when I start feeling mindfucked, because normally I am used to cumming every day. However, that's very individual. If you’ve never tried denying yourself cumming, you're in for a lot of fun. You will want to experience it, regardless of how you feel about findom. Now, if you are doing this in order to spiral into findom, I recommend that you hold off from cumming until you reach the point you're ready to send (unless you're not feeling it at all even after following all the advice below for a few days).
If you're using chastity — be deliberate about it
Chastity can make it easier to avoid jerking off and cumming. It can also reinforce the mindfuck you get from not cumming, especially if someone else (a keyholder) is telling you to be locked, whether he's keeping the key or you're self-locking. It helps you feel your role as a submissive and your place under others. It makes your submission to others so much more real, physical—you feel it on your dick. And if you have a stronger sense of your submission, it's easier to submit in new ways like findom.
At the same time, I say you need to be deliberate about it, because while it's fine to be locked most of the time to increase your mindfuck, eagerness and desperation, I've always felt more susceptible to sending money to a FinDom when the chastity cage was off and I was jerking off without cumming. That way I was building up my horniness through edging. I was doing that without a plan of cumming, because I cum only when I seek my Master's permission. Gradually, I would become so horny, that I would seek any form of relief, and sending to a FinDom could provide some of that. Of course, if you have the luxury of cumming, you can build up to that and your orgasm may be even more fulfilling if you wait until you send before letting yourself cum. Otherwise, you might lose all your sexual tension and eagerness after you cum and your need to send will dissipate.
A minor note if you don't want to take the cage off. I know some guys edge with their cage on by using a wand, a vibrator. I still haven't tried it, but I imagine that it can be effective too. Tell me about your experience or recommend what you use.
Explore different FinDoms
Don't expect to find a FinDom who triggers you right away. Not all FinDoms are created equal. A lot of guys who ask for money don't even know what they're doing. They just saw others doing it, thought it was cool, and figured they could try. The number of their followers on Twitter can be a good indicator of their skill. An even better indicator is whether people have already sent to them money on Throne, especially if it's a lot.
While you search for your Prince Charming, you might feel the beginning of an itch to send to very different FinDoms. You might feel vulnerable toward one because of his looks, another because of his words, and yet another because of the images of his feet. Whatever compels you is valid, so if you’re already feeling an itch to send to him, take a moment to investigate if he could bring you to sending. Don’t be quick to dismiss him. Where there's an itch, there may be a way for you to send him, and if you're not feeling it yet, it might just be a matter of timing. You might be more mindfucked and vulnerable to send on another day.
In any event, don't be bothered by why you have an itch for a FinDom who seems to have only a modest following, or why you're feeling nothing for another FinDom who seems to be super successful and popular with other finsubs. Different strokes for different folks. We all have different triggers. Find the FinDom who pushes your buttons!
Take time to go through a FinDom's feed
You can meet FinDoms anywhere, even on a hookup app. But I've seen the most FinDoms on Twitter/X, where they can share any content with little censorship, including text, photos and videos. So take advantage of that and give yourself a moment to go through the tweets of a FinDom who piques your interest.
Try to observe: what is it about him that excites you most? What triggers you? Is it the way he looks? Or perhaps you have a fetish and you're especially excited when you see his feet or armpits? Maybe it's the sound of his voice that compels you, and you should focus on his videos? Or his expressions and the way he looks at the camera?
For me, it's usually imperative to have some visual of the FinDom, otherwise it's really hard to be triggered all the way to sending. However, I'm most compelled by words, which shouldn't surprise you. After all, as you know from my text-based content, words matter to me. When I realize it's the words that trigger me, it's quite encouraging, because it may indicate that this FinDom will be able to do even more with his words when he talks to me one-on-one in the DMs. That is, unless he's using AI to write his tweets. I have a feeling that the more successful FinDoms are highly perceptive guys who can sense what buttons to push to trigger each sub.
You might be triggered by something that symbolizes the difference in your power or status: A large number of followers, a high dollar value of sends to him, a large dick, or big muscles. Because you want to be smaller and weaker for him. That's at least my experience.
Dare to engage with the FinDom
Don't hesitate for too long before reaching out to a Dom, whether in replies to his tweets, or finally, sliding into his DMs. Be advised that many FinDoms are not very tolerant of subs in their DMs without at least a minimal contribution. So it's worth thinking for a moment whether you will be ready to send anything to him once he asks, even just $10, before you send him a message. However, if you know you feel something, and you're just not sure you're ready to send, you might still want to consider engaging. Who knows, maybe you'll find that he is so charismatic and that he'll help you find the right reason to send. And if he dismisses you too quickly for you to find that reason, don't dwell on it. Just move on until you find the right FinDom to drain you, or circle back to him if you ever do feel ready to send to him.
Consider hypnosis
This is not a must, but hypno audio files can prime you for sending. In fact, I started this blog after trying them for the first time (as I explained in my first podcast episode). They put me in a more submissive state and I was eager to share the story of my submissive role with everyone. You could say the Dom hypnotist (AlphaSteveFD on Twitter/X) opened me up. He also opened up the cash holes of many subs.
Think about reasons to send
It's fine if you act on impulse. Probably most finsubs do. Or at least we think we're acting on impulse, when we get so horny, eager and excited. When we're chasing the rush of endorphins that will be released when we click send. When we get the attention of the Dom, and if we're lucky, some praise in front of everyone on Twitter, whether it's calling us "a good boi" or degrading us as "pathetic".
We're all wired differently, but for me, as someone who considers himself a very rational person, I know that reasons matter. Even if in the end, the decision to send seems impulsive, in the spur of the moment, I still need sending to make sense to me. So if I take the time to think about the potential reasons to send, that would seem logical to me, that would set the foundation for me to send when I’m ready. Thinking about reasons to send, even when I still don’t want to send, lays the groundwork to be able to send when I finally think I want to—when my button is pushed. By that point, sending will seem very natural.
Here are nine reasons I found for sending, as I mentioned in an earlier post (Spiraling into Financial Domination, October 19, 2024). If you're not a paid subscriber, you can listen to it in the podcast episode.
- Excitement
- Attention
- Training
- Content
- Therapy
- Drilling
- Fulfillment
- Degradation
- Community
When the moment to send comes
You might feel the pressure when a cashcock fucks your cashhole and all that cash leaks out, just like getting fucked by a thick cock. But you still want it. You relish it. And it may even lead you to cumming. You simply need to give yourself the freedom to experience it. Just loosen up your (cash)hole and take it like the (cash)whore you know you want to be.
So what's holding you back?
If you want to practice findom in a safe space, slide into my DMs. I promise you that your well-being is my top priority, before making you leak, even when you want to. I only want your money if you can confirm that you're looking to send, not to quit, and if you never send money that is meant for your dependents.
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