A Letter to My Younger Self

I've been meaning to write this for a long time. These are some things I think could have been helpful for younger me to know a long time ago. The obvious would be tips on which stocks to buy, and a little less obvious, that I should set aside some money every month for retirement no matter what. However, there was something I wanted to tell my younger self about kink. Since he was still at a place without any experience in it, I chose to take a broader approach, so the comments on kink don’t shock.

Dear me

There's something I want to tell you about kink, and other important things in life. That's right, you'll find kink is important to you. Not for your survival, but for your enjoyment of life, and that is the main thing that should drive you.

You'll find that there are so many fun kinks to play with in bed, and you know what? Even out of  bed. You can explore both submission and domination. If you find yourself tempted to serve another guy, get on all fours for him, clean his apartment, or drink his piss, it's OK. Most of it is harmless. You can let yourself experience all these things, as long as you pay attention to your limits. Try to think clearly about what you don’t want to do and what might actually appeal to you if you tried. Trust me, a lot of it will.

Have fun

If we zoom out for a moment, I just want to encourage you to let yourself have fun. Just know that it gets better. If you feel like all the weight of the world is on your shoulders, relax. Most likely whatever is weighing on you now won't matter as much when you're older. That's partly because you'll have bigger problems to worry about than you have today, but also because you'll give fewer fucks.

We are on this earth for a limited time, so we should make the most of it and try to have fun. If you haven't figured this out yet, you will soon. You'll see that all you want to do is enjoy life and help others enjoy it too. Sometimes you might do things you don't want to, like take an exam, attend some event, or save money. But it can be easy if you think of those things as stuff you do so that your life in the future will be better. Rather than feeling forced into doing something, be a master of your own destiny, and create your own opportunities.

Sometimes you just have to stop and smell the roses, or lift your eyes from the pavement to notice a beautiful building, or a handsome guy. Sometimes it requires that you get your head out of your problems and remind yourself of the bigger picture, that you're here to have fun. Most of the time, it shouldn't be too hard to achieve, but your outlook will matter. Keep in mind that some problems you’re preoccupied with today won't matter to you in the future.

So it's OK to enjoy a dessert every now and then. And it's ok to slut out, if you feel like it. Just take care of your health and safety. But don't worry so much about what others  think.

I know that's easier said than done. It took you until the age of twenty to realize you can be happy too, if you just allow yourself to accept that you're gay. What you don't know yet is that there's so much more to be happy about. You didn't have a great first experience bottoming, but it will get so much better, because most people aren't as dumb as the first guy who fucked you, using lotion instead of lube. Any shame you still carry about that won't follow you forever. It will melt away as you have so many more positive experiences.

Enjoy kinks safely

When pursuing kinks, the question of if you're into something or not is key. Another important question is if it crosses your limits. You can experiment with your limits, but trust your instincts. Give yourself time to explore and consider trying something new, but don’t feel pressured. Some guys will want to push you when you're not ready, or do things you should never be ready for. Be careful of them.

So another important question is this: is exploring a certain kink potentially harmful to you or to anyone else? Can it compromise your health, your mental stability, your relationships, or your career? Sometimes we can't know, but we assume, just like with coming out. I’m writing to you from a point in time in which I'm still in the closet with my kinks to most people, but over time I'm finding it easier to share with close friends. After all, there's nothing wrong with that, unless you're harming yourself or others. Most kinks are harmless when done with care, but there’s a line you should never cross.

Some people are into abuse. But that’s one place where nothing about you changes: abuse stays a hard limit. Even years from now, with all the experience you’ll gain, you’ll still know that verbal, physical, emotional, or financial abuse isn’t for you. Some guys will try to pull you into it, especially when you’re vulnerable or eager to please. You might even feel tempted once or twice. Don’t. Not because you’re weak, but because they don’t have your wellbeing in mind. They have no limits and no concern for you or your wellbeing, and I don’t want you getting hurt. Stay away from them.

Instead of the dangerous people, you'll find that choosing the right people and spending time with them will offer you the support you'll need. Wherever you can be a part of a group or a community, this can be an asset to serve you for a lifetime. So invest in the people who show up for you — your family, friends, classmates, colleagues, and people you volunteer with. Some of them may challenge you sometimes, but the same individuals may help you get through the roughest patches, or help you make a breakthrough to make your life so much better.

Take care of yourself

On to another matter, don't get anxious about the way you look. But it is worth putting an effort at the gym, and just as important, watching what you eat. Your diet can make a big difference and together with the gym, they can improve the results you get in every area of your life, not only in the hookups you get. The biggest trick is just consistency. If you want to change how you look, keep at it. This is a prime example of an area in which you might not feel like putting in the work, but if you do, it will make your life better.

If you're worried that looks fade — don't. A friend just told me today that I age like fine wine. I do feel hotter and I'm having more fun today than I ever have. However, I'm not going to lie. I wish I let myself explore my kinks at a younger age, because a lot of the kinky guys I find hottest today (especially Doms) are often into twinks. So use the advantage of youth while you can.

Be mindful of your innate need to please others. Don't let it drive every decision you make and everything you do. It's totally fine to take care of others and even enjoy their praise, but don't depend on it. Find your praise from within — the conviction that you're doing the right thing, that you're making good decisions. Put yourself in the center, so you're always focused on what's important: making your life better.

I’m proud of who you’ll become. You’ll grow into someone who enjoys life more than you ever imagined — and who knows how to take care of himself, his pleasure, and his heart, and has changed a little corner of the world for the better.

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