What Limits Mean to Me

Someone once shared with me his impression that many of my posts were about what I won't do, so I can understand why a Dom could get turned off by the title of this post. Most Doms don't seem to be like that, but on occasion I have come across a Dom who expressed his preference that I didn't have limits. He'd reason that he was a superior Dom and that his preferences and wishes were all that mattered.

I feel like such a sentiment truly deserves an eye roll. A sub's limits are not his preferences. We can talk about hard limits, as opposed to negotiable limits, and sometimes it is possible to stretch limits, but even in such cases, they represent more than mere preferences.

I have a perfect example to illustrate this — my experience from last night with a very Dominant Master. Let me preface this by reassuring you that I don't wish to speak ill of him, primarily because he's not a bad guy. It just wasn't a great match, though a big part of that was because he didn't care much for limits.

I'm finding it hard to describe this Master's demeanor in a word. I don't want to say he was abusive, though he did slap me unnecessarily hard. I also can't say he was respectful, even though he eventually asked about my limits, because that was a little late, after I'd already arrived at his place. And again, slapping is not so respectful.

Another good reason not to speak ill of him but to try and offer praise, is that he has an amazing thick cock. I loved it and I was so grateful that he offered it to me so early on in our meeting, shortly after I began giving him a massage. He just ruined it by complaining that I wasn't doing the massage well while he was fucking my face.